Your experiences – everything that has happened to you – are yours. If your recollections of those experiences do not match exactly the memories of others, trust your versions, not theirs. Your stories must be true to your reminiscences. This is perhaps especially true of hurt. Often, when someone hurts you, it is easier to alter the reality than to admit the hurt. Often, you must acknowledge that hurt before its perpetrator will concede to it. Shame is the lie someone told you about yourself. Tell your stories as you lived them. Those who treated you well, will be warmly recalled; those who did not, will not. Reproach to them who behaved badly toward you. Next time, if forgiveness is granted, in response to genuine contrition, they may treat you better.