You cannot control what is happening. You can, however, control your response to what is happening. You will never have any real, legitimate power or control over anything else, or anyone else. You only have control over your choices regarding those people, places, and things. Your life will unfold as your choices command.

You have control over how long you hold onto those who are not holding onto you.

You are allowed to leave, to turn and to walk away, never to look back. If it is that bad, if it hurts that much, if there is no redemption possible, no reconciliation possible, it is okay to leave.

You are allowed to withdraw from abusive people and places, to depart from unwholesome people and places, to escape another betrayal, another deception.

You are allowed to say ‘No!’ without explaining why. Say ‘Fuck, no!’; it is okay. You are allowed to quit something you detest. You need not offer an excuse. Break a promise, break a contract; you cannot be held captive to something you despise.

You are allowed to start over. Starting over does not necessarily mean that you have failed. If you did, you are free to try again, and again, and again. But, maybe, you are starting over simply because you want a better start. That, too, is fair. 

You are allowed to make you own choices.

You did not claim the family or the country into which you were born. Forsaken by that family or  that country, you need not persevere in any contrivance of affection for those persons, that place. Summon the courage to leave. Return to the people who share that blood that is yours, but that you have never known. They have dwelt a lifetime in your heart, and you in theirs, though you have never met. And that land of your dreams, known by your senses if not by your mind? It is your real home. You are imprisoned only by fear. Nothing begins ’til you get there. Go!

Magic is control of the authorship of your own destiny. As a magician, you hold the pen in your own hand with which the story of your life is written.

Cease, to begin anew.